I'm a fan of makeup on women. Moderate amounts of makeup applied correctly can do wonders for ones appearance. So why are there so many women out there who don't use it?
Monday, March 10, 2008
No Makeup?
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Do you mean "don't use it EVER?" or, "Don't use it every day?"
I put on a little makeup pretty much every day, but I don't have kids yet. From what I've seen and heard, the morning routine gets significantly more challenging when you add kids to that mix. (You probably know more about that than I do) Perhaps at that point, other priorities (sleep?) take precidence over makeup application.
I could see myself going through a period of wearing makeup only on "Sundays and semi-special occasions" once we have children. I guess time will tell.
Then too, I know women who are allergic to all but the most expensive of products, and they just don't want to fork over the money.
I think there are 3 reasons:
1. Moral Opposition. (I don't get this point of view so don't ask me to explain it.)
2. Lack of know-how.
3. Beat-down-ness.
And maybe some people are just too busy and it's the lowest priority. Who knows. I'd be interested to hear from anyone who actually doesn't wear make-up.
I keep lip stuff and powder in my purse and can always at least put that on in the car to freshen up the make-up. If I was really beat down, I would keep mascara in there too, and that could be my entire make-up regime. Everyone has time to put on powder, mascara, and lipstick in the car.
Sorry--I was trying to set up a test blog and was accidently signed in under that. Here's what I said that I deleted above:
I think the number one reason should be to truly love ourselves. Because it would be nice to look in the mirror without makeup on and not immediately think "Ew! I look gross!" Who wants to think that their real self looks gross? If you go without makeup, you get used to the way you look without it, and you're more likely to realize that you're beautiful how you are. You learn to love the way your face looks without it instead of feeling like you need it.
Unfortunately, I am not at this stage. I wish I were.
I don't wear much makeup, but I would love to love my natural face more.
Good question Charlotte. I mean "don't use makeup as a general rule". Everyone puts on makeup when they go to a wedding, for example. I just don't understand why some women don't put on some amount of makeup as part of their normal preparation for going out in public; for instance, out to dinner, out to church, out to the mall or out to a barbeque.
It's no skin off my back, but it seems to me that, for most women, a little makeup goes a long way to making oneself more attractive.
I wear makeup because I lack the self confidence to go without. I always admire women who could care less about whether their skin was flawless or not.
I'm know I'm beating a dead horse with this, but I don't see much difference between wearing eyeshadow the brings out the blue in your eyes and wearing black because it slims.
Sure, both serve to emphasize or deemphasize certain features, but if you've got a choice, why not choose the one that is more flattering on you? If you're one of the lucky ones that looks their best without makeup, more power to you. For everyone else, I say there is no shame in a little mascara and lipstick.
I think that's kind of sad, Tyler. I think people should be confident in how they look au natural. And THEN adding some makeup and "slimming" clothes can come on the side for fun. But the point Ashley (sis) and I are trying to make is that women often feel like they need those things to truly like how the look.
The magic's in the makeup, but I want to be the real thing, right?
I have opinions on this one. I, too, do not understand women who don't wear makeup. The few women I know who don't, tell me their husband prefers the "natural" look. BUT I think they have misunderstood their husbands. Their husbands probably meant "natural" in a "not TONS of makeup" way, not "natural" in a "look tired and ugly" way. I agree with Molly and Ashley (sis) that it would be nice if we all loved ourselves with no makeup and felt confident without it BUT if you can look WAY better with it, why not just wear it? It's not that hard to apply and only takes a few minutes but can do a world of difference. Maybe I'll post pictures on my blog of me without makeup so you can all see the difference I'm talking about. I know women who don't wear it. They also have self-esteem issues and don't think they're cute. I think if they wore makeup they would feel much better. I love makeup and it makes me way cuter than I really am. Tyler, I love that you brought up this topic!!
Tyler, do you mind if I link to this post on my blog?
Not in the least bit Denae. Link away!
I am a reader from Denae's blog, so I thought I would come check out what you had to say. I agree that a little bit of make-up done right, does wonders. However, my husband and I were talking on this subject and we think that the frumpy frumps out there who don't wear make-up or do their hair, or wear pj's or sweats, have bigger issues going on then just make-up.
Make-up just shows that you care about yourself, and its fun! At least I think so! I love to use different colors of eye shadow and such. But mostly every woman just needs a little powder, blush, and mascara.
I'm gonna have to say that some women just don't want to bother with it. I know I don't always wear it. I agree that you can make yourself look better with it, and most of us don't feel comfortable without it. But if you don't want to bother with it; and you look good without it, why must you feel like you should? I know women who don't wear it because they don't make the time to put it on, and they look just fine without out. In fact as good as some do with it on. I think it's a personal thing.
Hi, I found your blog from Denae's who I found from Julie's... hope it's okay to post a comment! Anyway, not wearing makeup is like not caring what you look like. I don't think women who don't wear makeup are more comfortable and secure with themselves, I think they just don't care, and that is sad. We should all aspire to be beautiful and shine... I have 3 kids under 4 years, and I actually feel better about myself when I put a little makeup on. When I glance in the mirror, I want to see pretty, even if I'm hanging out with a toddlers all day. Eye-liner and mascara take about 2 minutes to apply, but there really is a world of difference!
P.S. I'm a friend of Denae's
I feel my comment becoming a post before I even start.
1. My mom loves makeup, thus I hated makeup as a teenager.
2. I wear a little bit, but I refuse to wear it on Mondays. I get tired of it. People just have to live with the ugly me on Mondays. My eyelashes need a rest.
3. I touch my face a lot, a trait I inherited from my father, and my makeup comes off. By the end of the day, it looks like there wasn't any there to begin with. I do freshen up if I'm going out.
4. Mascara looks funny when it is ringed under my eyes after my nap.
You can bet I'll be wearing makeup on Friday morning.
Denae, are you talking about me?
I don't wear make-up and never have. Do I have self-esteem issues? Now I am worried that I have problems I didn't know I had!
Phoebe, I'm saying that the 2 girls I know (2 specific ones and you are not one of them) that don't wear make-up also have self-esteem issues. Maybe they're too scared to wear it because they look pretty when they do and that makes them nervous/embarrassed? Also, I didn't know you didn't wear it. You must wear a little something?
You know, I think it just depends on the person. I am extremely fair skinned and fair haired and without eye makeup, my eyes get lost.
Here's the thing (as a former makeup artist who owns an entire MAC counter of her own), it's not so much the makeup that changes a persons appearance. The same way I don't think losing tons of weight makes someone prettier (if they're heavy). It's the self-confidence we get from looking in the mirror and thinking, "Wow, I look good." That's what makes makeup (and weight loss) so effective.
And yes, it would be great if we could all feel great in sweats, with our hair in a ponytail, sans makeup, but not all of us do. I just know, when working as a makeup artist, that is was amazing to see the inner transformation that happened with just a little outer help.
Is that so wrong? If you want to take the self-improvement thing to the nth degree, why can't we just be happy with a high school diploma. I mean, is a college degree really going to give me more self-confidence? The answer is yes...just like properly applied makeup will, just like a great hair cut/style, just like a well cut suit will.
Okay...sorry that was such a rant, but really, I have strong feelings on this one.
And one more thing, I think it shows that a woman cares about herself, which just makes her more attractive (in the deeper sense of the word).
Here from Denae.
Sometimes I let my bathroom get dirty. When I finally clean it, I enjoy it in a whole new way.
Sometimes I don't wear makeup. When I finally put it on, I enjoy it in a whole new way.
Okay, to clarify, I am known to wear mascara on occasion. Lipgloss if I have a hot date, although my husband kind of hates lip gloss (messy for kissing). But I truly do not wear make-up most days. What can I say, my mom gave me great skin.
I think make-up is great. And fun to buy. I do think that a lot of women wear too much. I also have observed that once you are so used to seeing yourself with make-up on, you think you are not as great without it.
Here from Denae...
I agree that makeup makes a world of difference on a person. I rarely find the person who chooses NOT to wear makeup prettier than when they DO wear it. But I have found the person who defintely wears too much. I guess there's varying degrees of it and what people need it for.
My husband thinks I look great without makeup (thanks, husband), but I OF COURSE wear makeup because I know he's just being sweet and I look waaaay better with it. I use it as part of my daily routine, but if I miss a day when I'm hanging around the house it's not a big deal to either of us.
I honestly think that people care too much about what their husband thinks about makeup, hair, etc. I have a GORGEOUS cousin who's husband does not like her wearing makeup. She is stunning with it but follows his wishes.
I don't have to wear makeup. It doesn't appeal to me. Then again if I tried to wear it, I have a huge fear of looking like a tranny or something. So, I just abstain. great post!
I love makeup but, I am not trying to make a statement of feminism or anything, if I am not wearing any...sometimes I just don't get around to it, but most days I do because I feel better about myself when I have made at leas SOME effort. Now, as for my wardrobe...that is just hopeless...
Well, I ♥ make-up and wear it everyday. Unless I'm sick. Cause it makes me feel good. On the rare occasion I go out without make-up, I don't mind, but I'd rather not look like a chemo patient. (yes, I'm very blond so if I don't use mascara and such, it looks like I have no brows or eyelashes. And yes, I have been "rumored" to have cancer because of it. stupid people)
Anyways. I do make-up all.the.time. Cause I love it.
Thanks to all the women for your comments. Very insightful. Next topic: miniskirts ; )
Hey Tyler! Long time no see!! I was just lurking over from Jill's blog (hope you don't mind) and found this puppy...
One thing to think about for those who don't wear it... A LOT of make-up will make those not blessed with "good" skin break out and in a bad way. I am one of those with not such great skin and until I found the make-up I'm using now, HATED the stuff.
Here's why:
1) what it did to my skin (no matter the brand)
2) the way it made my skin look after applying it over the bad skin.
3) feels nasty
4) can leaves marks on clothing
5) makes me not look like me
Overall, I think its a self-esteem thing. My number 5 shows that however it can be taken in the reverse. Like your sisters said, some don't feel like themselves without make up. I'm the opposite. I personally prefer the "natural look" (meaning just enough make-up not overly done up) and am actually more self conscious when I wear more make-up. I like the fact that when I wake up in the morning, I look like me.
Good topic! Thanks for letting me lurk! :)
Sorry, can't help myself (I'm also a lurker from Denae's site). Here's my opinion:
1) Most people, including (gasp!) men, would look more appealing with makeup (at least from a distance). That's why they use it on TV, for everyone. So...men, what's stopping you? Low self esteem? Or are you just "beat-down"?
2) There is a world of difference between applying makeup and using good personal grooming. Personal grooming is an issue of self-respect and politeness, in a society where we interact within close proximity of each other. Makeup, on the other hand, should be a personal choice, not an expectation.
Wow Tyler, you got the women all riled up with this one!!!
I am a lurker from Denae's blog as well and Denae if you are reading this, I am friend's with Sarah. Here is my thing with makeup. Make-up just enhances one's beauty. I think women should wear make-up, even it if is just some mascara. I like to wear makeup and enjoying trying different ways of putting it on. I think I have at least 30 different color eye shadow. I have to at least pencil in my eyebrows, due to the fact mine are so blonde and you can't see them. I have a good self esteem and think when I am wearing make-up, I am FREAKIN hot!!!! This might get people in an uproar, but I have seen women who really take care of themselves but once the get married, they move to frumpville. The make up comes off, the hair gets pulled back in a pony tail and the big clothes come out of the closet. WOMEN, our husbands still like us to look attractive and want to show us off. I know I gained some weight when I got married, so to make up for that, I try to always look nice, not just for my husband but also just for my confidence! Great post!
Ok, Tyler..I am sure you didn't mean to open a can of worms, but Danae's regular subscribers seem to have come out in force...in fact, I didn't comment the first time I read it, or the second time when Steve read it and told me about it, and would probably have been content to leave it had there not been some many other interesting comments :)
Well applied, makeup looks good on almost anyone. But this is a "social" perspective. I mean, remember when "rouge" or other makeup was a sign of a prostitute or a lady of ill-repute. So of course, if we all lived then, we would rather die than leave our house WITH makeup.
This has obviously changed some. My personal reasons for wearing/not wearing makeup are thus: Please don't think less of me for showering at different intervals than the standard 24 hr cycle....sometimes it is less, or more...
1. I don't have a morning routine. Ask any of my old roommates or my husband. It is just as likely that I will roll out of bed and get dressed as it is that I will "makeup" my face or hair for that matter. Since this is random (not 50/50, just random), whether I am wearing makeup or not depends entirely upon whether I was wearing it the day before and whether or not I showered or washed my face the night before...I know, remind me when I 40 or 50 about how I should have taken better care of my skin...
2. I am going to go with your sisters in that it is nice to know that I do not think less of myself (image) if I am not wearing it...but in direct contrast, I do think more of myself when I am.
3. If I am leaving my house to impress, you better be sure I will have makeup on (even if it is touched up 'residual' stuff)
4. If not...well, I hope I don't scare anyone else too bad...but more than likely they are just wondering if their makeup looks ok considering mine is so terrible :) and I am ok with that.
5. As for inside my house, well, my husband can start his own blog and tell you what he and my four year old think is the answer to my personal "To wear or not to wear question"
6. P.S. I am turning this comment into a post and sending it out there on my own blog...which I should have done in the first place and just left a link in the comments.
Nicole,
Yours is perhaps my favorite response in the whole list. Thanks for having the cajones to step up to the plate on this one.
A couple of comments:
1) I have worn makeup...on multiple occassions and I didn't look half bad. Despite my stunning looks I have absolutely no desire to wear makeup on a regular basis. However, if it were the norm for men, I probably would.
2) Having worn makeup I know how much of a pain it is to apply it, and to wear it(Celia, I get the touching the face thing. Such a nuisance). I agree that makeup should be a personal preference and women should not be thought less of for choosing not to wear it. But that doesn't change the fact that I will probably think you looked better if you did.
That stuff about you wearing make-up on multiple occasions is scary. You might want to clarify that it was Halloween. (Even so . . . scary!)
I don't want men to wear make-up. I do wish men could be the pregnant ones sometimes.
I've worn make up too...have to for plays and stuff..and from what I've heard..In high school..Big Pete Swanson..was wearing it..i think to shade in his side burns or somthing.."heard from Mrs Swanson when i was a senior..nice...congrates on the one hit wonder...
Tyler, I saw this post when you wrote it and didn't leave a comment because I didn't want to get called out with my name as title again on your blog.
HOWEVER, since there are so many other comments, I think mine can sink in with the masses so I'm commenting.
I used to wear MUCH more makeup when I was single. Like, I can't believe how much time I spent in the bathroom putting it on. Then, I got engaged. Then, my fiance had the audacity to tell me he didn't think I wore enough makeup and I should wear more because he thought I looked better with it.
SO: after putting on every single thing in my makeup bag (we're talking every eye color; white, black, brown eyeliner, blushes, lip liners, liquid and powder foundation) I came out and asked him if this was how he liked it. Yes, he did a double-take and immediately realized his crude mistake in making that comment to me.
End of story: I married him, started wearing less makeup because I am a brat and like knowing that he wants me to wear more, but always wear eyeliner and mascara if nothing else because I happen to have blond eyelashes and look albino if I don't.
Tyler wore makeup out on New Year's Eve in Vienne, Austria! We put eyeliner and glitter and mascara on him and everything! Ha!
Just to clarify--Ashley (my sis) and I love to wear makeup. We usually wear at a little bit, but the point is that people should be happy with themselves without it, too. And there is a huge difference between looking nice while not wearing makeup, and looking like you just rolled out of bed, right?
Right. :)
Tyler! I know this is an old posting, but I was bored at work and decided to check out your blog since I've never read it before. Bad choice! After reading this entry, I decided I will never read your blog again, because I'm sure I'll just find more examples of how I disagree with you and I'd rather not be upset with you all the time. This posting is sooooooooooooo sexist. I mean really sexist. But what's even more upsetting is all the women who agreed with you. Open your eyes and take a real look at what you just agreed with. Way to take a step back in time ladies.
I am more confident in my bare skin than in any amount of make up. I love how beautiful (in my opinion, and I mean this in no "stuck up" way)I look without it. And if I decide to go for a jog, I don't have to worry about it dripping and streaking across my face.
My idea of wearing make up (on special occasions) is either a green or light bronzy brown eyeliner and a clear lip gloss.
I wish more women could find confidence and beauty within themselves, they would be a lot happier.
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